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I practise belly breathing daily and do some tantric breathing every now and then. I breath in deep and as I do I imagine that I am breathing inwards down below, allowing the energy to rise to my chest then I imagine myself breathing out of a hole in my chest.

Neither practises work for me so looking for some eduction??

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Originally posted by Chiron

The very first thing for the man is to make sure that the bladder is empty before engaging in sex because that gives a false feeling of wanting to come. Strengthen your pelvic floor. Incorporate Kegels/Mulabanda practices into your daily routine, better yet, learn to flex the perineum muscle during intercourse itself. The AYP holdback method (aka the start-stop method) is the foundation for all the other arousal/ejaculation management techniques. An advanced version of it is when you combine it with a perineum muscle squeeze and roll your hips and pull your coccyx back as far as possible. Or alternatively you can push forward as far as possible while doing the perineum squeeze and hold there, the advantage of this is that you stay inside your partner and she can keep deriving please, although, this is a bit riskier than the first variant when you exit fully. Spinal breathing works nicely during sex for relaxation, however, the breathing techniques have a much more subtle effect. It's the physical techniques that one should focus on first until you develop the sensitivity to move the energy directly. The perineum press, or the AYP blocking technique is another cornerstone technique that rewires your nervous system and shows the body a new way of functioning without ejaculation.

The clitoris glans has 8,000 nerve endings which makes it the most sensitive part of the female sexual anatomy. You can familiarize yourself with it during the breaks in intercourse when you are learning the start-stop method. Turns out females have a prostate too and there are quite a few fingering techniques for playing with the G-spot. These tips and hints may help you with the female orgasm part, although, you should keep in mind that her level of relaxation and openness to the experience plays a big part as well. Emotional and psychological blockages can hinder or reduce the level of intensity of the female orgasm, so, learning AYP deep meditation and spinal breathing could help her in the long run as well.

I wrote a small ebook where I compiled 22 techniques which enable the man to practice karezza while avoiding the dreaded blueballs effect. These techniques complement and at times overlap with the AYP tantric lessons. Only I used the terminology that is more common to sexology and sex therapy, while avoiding esoteric terms where possible, in an attempt to capture a wider audience. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071W1GZMQ

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