Note: For the Original
Internet Lessons with additions,
For the Expanded and Interactive Internet Lessons, AYP Online Books,
Audiobooks and more, see AYP Plus.
Sexual Fantasies and Bhakti (Audio)
Date: Thu Dec 30, 2004 9:37pm
It is recommended you read from the beginning of this tantra yoga archive,
as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "What
is tantra yoga?"
Q: I have been doing meditation for
quite some time now and had a lot of spinal breathing exercises. Since four
years ago I have been in taoist sexual practices and I can now elevate
sexual energies to the crown. Although I have been faithful to my wife as
she had been my partner, she is quite slow in practicing and I found myself
doing most of the practices all alone. However I have other women in mind in
doing the practices on my own. Is this harmful to my wellbeing? Second, are
the women that I am fantasizing on affected by my visualizations and
emotional energy? Please enlighten me on this matter.
Fantasies for solo practice are fine. If we use them to go higher, it is a
form of bhakti, yes? As ecstatic conductivity gradually comes up, the
fantasies will transform to a higher expression of ecstatic bliss and divine
love bubbling from within. Then the process will be self-sustaining, and
there will be little need to fantasize on external persons or objects. This
is how it is with all ishtas (chosen ideals), and gurus too. We are drawn to
them by internal desire, become infatuated outside, and then take them back
inside, transforming them to a divine expression of ecstatic bliss within.
The last step requires good yoga practices. Then it happens like clockwork.
Do our sexual fantasies affect the ones we are fantasizing about?
Perhaps in small ways -- but nothing destructive. It is for a good cause. It
would be different if we were getting tangled up in extramarital affairs.
Then the stability of our family and future of our children would be at
risk, not to mention the effects on the other person. And so too would our
yoga be at risk. Daily practice does best with a stable routine in place. If
our life is being flung from pillar to post, yoga practices are not so easy
The desire to be with other women is normal for men, and
no doubt women harbor hidden desires and fantasies too. Following such
feelings into relationships isn't an essential part of our enlightenment
process. Preservation and cultivation of sexual energy (brahmacharya) is,
and that can be by solo means or in relationships. So we can put our hidden
sexual desires to good use, just as we can put our outer expressed sexual
desires to good use. Either or both can be used to take us higher. That is
bhakti -- transforming desires to serve our chosen spiritual ideal.
In the meantime, as we are filling up with ecstatic bliss and rising divine
love all the time, our relationship with our loved ones will become full
with loving service. Sex transformed to pure love!
and practices of tantra can be used in any lifestyle. It is up to us to
adopt a lifestyle that is compatible with our inclinations, needs, and the
needs of our loved ones. If we are applying the principles of preservation
and cultivation of sexual energy, the sexual aspects of the process of yoga
will be served. The specifics of how the principles are applied are up to
each person. I wish you all success on your chosen spiritual path. Enjoy!
The guru is in you.
Related Lessons Topic Path
Discuss this Lesson in the AYP Plus Support Forum
Note: For detailed
instructions on the methods of tantra in relation to the broad scope of yoga
practices and the enlightenment process,
see the AYP Tantra book.
Also see AYP Plus.
Previous | Next