Lesson 35 - Q&A – Ecstatic Reflex during Sex

From: Yogani
Date: Wed Jul 28, 2004 10:46pm

New Members: It is recommended you read from the beginning of this
tantra yoga archive, as previous lessons are prerequisite to this
one. The first lesson is, "What is tantra yoga?"


Q: Thank you very much for your remarkably lucid writings on kechari.
It is of tremendous value to me. I have been in stage 1 Kechari for
many years. Truth is I never actually knew how to get to stage 2,
since I did not know about the 'side approach'. My tongue seems
nearly long enough to get to stage 2 soon and I feel ready. If I had
not read your message (main lesson #108), it would have been delayed
for some years, since I was going through the middle.

I have a question for you if I may. As I approach sexual orgasm,
(during ordinary sexual activity not in any way approached as yogic)
I find the instinct to roll my eyes upwards and push the tongue back
and up as in Kechari. I have followed this instinct on many
occasions. I do not know how to describe the affect well, but it
seems to integrate the Ajna and the sexual impulse. It seems as if
the sexual urges become more powerful under Ajna control as the
result of the practice. It is fulfilling, intense and pleasurable.

Have you any comments on the practice?


A: I am very happy to hear that the kechari discussions have been
helpful to you. This practice has been shrouded in mystery for so
long, and barely heard of by so many yogis and yoginis, even though
it is a key factor in the development of ecstatic conductivity in the
body. It is time to bring kechari out of the closet, so we can
intelligently follow the natural impulses that are coming up in so
many of us these days.

Even stage 1 kechari carries great power, because the sensitive
nerves in the septum come down to the roof of the mouth right where
the hard and soft palates meet. That is where the bottom of the edge
of the nasal septum is. Putting the tip of the tongue there is like
closing an energy switch. As soon as some ecstatic conductivity is
rising in our nervous system, the pleasure of putting the tongue
there is quite obvious. Of course, when kechari evolves to stage 2,
going behind the soft palate and up, our tongue is directly touching
the "secret spot" on the septum (see tantra lesson #34), and the long
term results of that are beyond description, though we try our best
to explain it. Yoga will make ecstatic poets out of all of us yet!

The tendency to raise the eyes and roll the tongue back during sexual
activity and orgasm is a natural reflex that occurs when ecstatic
energy is coursing through the body. It is an automatic yoga. The
energy moving in sex is the same energy we are cultivating in
advanced yoga practices. The fact that many (even those not doing
yoga) experience this reflex during sex is a testament to the latent
ecstatic conductivity that exists in everyone. Promoting it
systematically through yoga practices is not only an important part
of how we move toward enlightenment, it also unravels the mystery of
how sexual energy functions in us on every level.

Yes, the most effective control and inner stimulation of sexual
energy in the nervous system is exercised through the ajna (third
eye), as you are finding. Kechari (rolled back tongue) is part of
this, and a close bedfellow of sambhavi (eyes rolled up toward a
slightly furrowed center brow). Spinal breathing and many of the
other techniques are for developing the third eye to root connection.
You are experiencing indications of this important connection in the
ecstatic reflex during your sexual activity.

I suggest you take this reflex of the eyes and tongue as an indicator
of the possibility for cultivating the experience of ongoing ecstatic
conductivity in your nervous system. Such an experience does not end
with orgasm. It just keeps going around the clock. The methods of
yoga aim to promote this, as discussed throughout the main and tantra
lessons.

The overall process is pretty simple, really. Cultivate inner silence
in daily deep meditation. Then overlay the stimulation of ecstatic
conductivity with spinal breathing, mudras (including sambhavi and
kechari), bandhas, siddhasana, samyama, chin pump, spinal bastrika,
tantric sexual methods, and so on. When blissful inner silence and
ecstatic conductivity rise and meet in us, the result is an endless
lovemaking on the cellular level. Then we bubble over into the
ecstatic bliss and outpouring divine love that is the natural
fruition of human evolution. No more struggle. Just pure joy through
all circumstances in life. That is what we are, and it unfolds as we
go through the process of purification and opening of our nervous
system.

Once we get to that stage, a simple lifting of the eyes at any time
will send us into a reverie of ecstatic bliss. All of life is divine
to one who is constantly in love and in lovemaking.

Regarding your question on practice during sex, it is suggested you
see how long you can stay in front of orgasm in a lovemaking or
masturbation mode. In other words, let that state of ecstatic
conductivity that draws your eyes up and tongue back continue for
some time without taking it to orgasm. There are techniques to help
with this. Consider reviewing the tantra lessons on holdback,
blocking, and the count method. As we develop familiarity and skill
at staying in front of orgasm, we find that the ecstatic conductivity
in our nervous system will stay with us much longer during the day.
If we add daily meditation, spinal breathing, and other practices,
then we will be setting the stage for ecstatic bliss to take up
permanent residence. It's well worth the effort.

No doubt you are doing many of these things already, so please regard
all of this as a reminder. I wish you all success on your chosen
spiritual path.

The guru is in you.

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