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Blocking Male Ejaculation -
Putting on the Training Wheels (Audio)
AYP Plus Additions:
T5.1 - The Effectiveness and Safety of Tantric
T5.2 - Dealing with the Need for Male Release (Audio)
Date: Sun Feb 1, 2004 4:52pm
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main group web archive, as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson
is, "Why This Discussion?" It is also recommended you read
from the beginning of this tantra yoga archive. The first lesson is, "What is tantra?"
the last lesson we talked about the holdback method. It is pretty
straightforward. There is only one catch to it. Many men have little or no
control over their orgasm. And in the heat of the moment they don't want any
control. The semen wants to go, and that is it. Sex is a mad dash for that,
and everything else tends to fall by the wayside.
So, how do we get around this? The key is in
altering the habit of the inner neurology of orgasm. We do this by giving
the male neurology a familiarity with a different way of traveling the road
of stimulation. In doing so, we find a different experience of pleasure, the
experience of divine ecstasy coming up through the nervous system. In time,
divine ecstasy becomes more charming than the jerking and lurching of
genital orgasm, and we become motivated to spend more time in the habit of
preorgasmic stimulation. We then have the choice - preorgasmic tantric sex
or genital orgasm. Maybe in a single session we'd like to have both,
beginning with a long session of the former and finally ending with the
latter. Once in a while, why not? That is having the cake and eating it too.
Of course, be doing that too often (like more than every week or two) and
the cake will be eating up your yoga.
In principle, the
holdback method alone can provide the necessary training for the man. We
will talk about the woman's evolving role in tantric sex in the next lesson.
She is very important, obviously. But first, we have to deliver her a
motivated tantric man. Without that, there won't be much tantric sex going
on. That is why we are focusing on the man first.
Is the holdback method
enough for training the man's orgasmic response? Maybe for some it is,
especially if they are experienced and have been working seriously on
extending their orgasm already. But for many, the holdback method will not
We will now talk about blocking male ejaculation.
It is an ancient tantric method with a long history of success. It is simple
enough to do.
When orgasm is about to come on, the man puts one
or two fingers (usually index and/or middle finger) at the perineum, presses
inward and forward against the pubic bone, and blocks the urethra channel
that the semen is about to come through. The orgasm still occurs, but the
semen is blocked from leaving the body. If the man let's go too soon, the
semen can still escape. If he holds the block for a minute or two and then
let's go, the semen will be reabsorbed and none will escape.
Blocking can be done by
reaching to the perineum from either the front or the back. In tantric
lovemaking with a partner, the man can reach from the back and block his
ejaculation if he has slipped and gone too far with stimulation. He still
has orgasm and will be done with sex for a while, but he has blocked the
loss of semen from his orgasm.
Beyond the mechanics of
stopping the exit of semen from the body, the blocking method has several
other aspects related to training the orgasmic response of the man.
First, having an orgasm
with the ejaculation blocked is not nearly as pleasurable as having one with
a free flow of semen. If a man's bhakti brings him to engage in blocking
most of his ejaculations, then there will also be a gradual shift in his
motivation from wanting to go to orgasm to wanting to stay in front of it.
So, blocking, besides stopping semen from leaving, provides an incentive for
a man to stay in front of orgasm. Why go there if it is going to be less
pleasurable than continuing in preorgasmic sex and climbing that stairway to
heaven with our lover?
Second, given what has
just been said, blocking is not something that will be needed forever. It is
a voluntary, temporary measure, like having training wheels on a bicycle.
Aren't you glad to hear that? Bicycles with training wheels are not much fun
at all. We want to get them off as soon as possible. So, we have an
additional incentive to train our orgasmic response, and reduce our reliance
on the training wheels. Once we learn to stay preorgasmic in sex for long
periods, we won't need blocking very often. By the time we get to that
stage, having genital orgasm may be part of sex only after an hour or two in
union, or maybe we will forget about it completely.
Forget about orgasm?
Yes, the experiences in long tantric sex can become so profound that we can
forget about orgasm completely. Hard to believe, but it is true. Tantric sex
can be that good. And it is good advanced yoga practice too! Over time, the
importance of the genital orgasm will fade to the background. We can still
have it if we want it, but it will become less attractive as our divine
ecstasy expands beyond it. Sex will still be good, but in a different way.
Sex will become an expression of our overall rising enlightenment, rather
than the obsessive needful thing it has been in the past.
Now we should talk about male masturbation.
It was mentioned that blocking can be done from
the front or the back. If a man is masturbating, the blocking can come in
from the front. Given the fact that the total semen expelled in masturbation
in the lifetime of an average man exceeds the amount expelled in lovemaking
manyfold, we should really talk about it.
Masturbation is the
greatest expeller of semen for many men. Masturbation also happens to be an
advantageous time to be training the male orgasm. It is a good time to
practice the equivalent of the holdback method, holding back before orgasm
over and over again, and permanently building the staying power to a high
level. It is also a good time to practice blocking when orgasm comes. So,
all the elements are there. Stimulation, pauses, and blocking as necessary.
Only the partner is missing. Interestingly, this is not far from what we are
doing in the traditional methods of mulabandha, siddhasana, and other
advanced yoga practices - stimulating our sexual energy systematically up
through our nervous system.
So, is tantric
masturbation a kind of yoga practice? Yes, it can be as long as it remains
preorgasmic. It is also an ideal self-training ground for a man to prepare
for tantric sex with a partner.
None of this is to
promote excessive sexual activity, or more masturbation than is already
going on. It is just to add an awareness of tantric methods that can be
incorporated into what we are already doing in our sex life. If we do so
intelligently, dramatic changes in our experience of sex can be achieved,
and our overall advanced yoga practices will be enhanced significantly.
The guru is in you.
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