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A Happy Woman (Audio)
Date: Wed Mar 3, 2004 4:54pm
It is recommended you read from the beginning of this tantra yoga archive,
as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "What
is tantra yoga?"
Q: Thank you for the simplicity and power
of the lessons. My hubby and me have worked on the hold back and blocking
for about a month and we are getting the hang of it. He sure is. Last night
we stayed in intercourse without orgasm for over an hour. I got lost after a
while. I didn't know where. It was beautiful. I was filled with the deepest
peace and sweet loving pleasure all over inside. Time and space disappeared.
It is beyond description, beyond anything sex has ever been. I want to stay
there forever, move into that place and never leave. It is still with me
today, but fading away. I can't wait for him to get home from work so we can
go deep again. He loves it too. I'm a happy woman. Can tantric sex replace
the other yoga practices? It feels like it could. We are doing the other
lessons too and started meditating in January. But we're a bit distracted
from that lately, ya know.
A: It is wonderful that you and your
husband are having good success with the tantra methods. It makes this old
heart feel good.
As you continue, it will go deeper, and the
experience will be more present in your daily activity. That is the
purification and opening of your nervous system to divine experience.
Preservation and cultivation of sexual energy is an important part of that.
Is tantric sex a replacement for sitting practices such as meditation,
spinal breathing, mudras, etc? No, it is not, for a couple of reasons.
First, tantric sex is in a similar category with mulabandha/asvini and
siddhasana, and success with these sexual energy-stimulating practices is
dependent on continuing global purification through spinal breathing and
deep meditation. You can go only so far with tantric sex without the
prerequisite practices. Then progress slows down because you are using
sexual energy alone for purification that requires broader and deeper
measures in the nervous system. The same is true of the sitting practices
that stimulate sexual/kundalini energy alone. Without spinal breathing and
meditation, things will bog down. There can also be imbalances, kundalini
symptoms, etc. So, sitting practices are very important, spinal breathing
and meditation in particular, to complete the journey with a minimum of
slowdowns and detours.
Second, purifying and opening the nervous
system to divine experience is very dependent on daily practice -
stimulating the nervous system to open like clockwork twice a day, every
day. This is not very practical with sexual relations, though many would
love to try for it. It is better to enjoy sex when it comes to us naturally,
using the tantric sex methods to preserve and cultivate for higher
experiences. Tantric sex will be enjoyable whenever we happen to do it, and
a big help to our yoga. Then, the rest of the time, we will be doing our
regular daily sitting practices, which assure us that we will be moving
right along with our spiritual progress.
So, whether we are having
sexual relations or not, advanced yoga practices will be there every day at
the same times, morning and evening. If tantric sex is there too, then our
yoga will be even better, and all of life will be beautifully illuminated.
The guru is in you.
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