Lesson 14 - Q&A – A happy woman

From: Yogani
Date: Wed Mar 3, 2004 4:54pm

New Members: It is recommended you read from the beginning of this
tantra yoga archive, as previous lessons are prerequisite to this
one. The first lesson is, "What is tantra yoga?"

Q: Thank you for the simplicity and power of the lessons. My hubby
and me have worked on the hold back and blocking for about a month
and we are getting the hang of it. He sure is. Last night we stayed
in intercourse without orgasm for over an hour. I got lost after a
while. I didn't know where. It was beautiful. I was filled with the
deepest peace and sweet loving pleasure all over inside. Time and
space disappeared. It is beyond description, beyond anything sex has
ever been. I want to stay there forever, move into that place and
never leave. It is still with me today, but fading away. I can't wait
for him to get home from work so we can go deep again. He loves it
too. I'm a happy woman. Can tantric sex replace the other yoga
practices? It feels like it could. We are doing the other lessons too
and started meditating in January. But we're a bit distracted from
that lately, ya know.

A: It is wonderful that you and your husband are having good success
with the tantra methods. It makes this old heart feel good.

As you continue, it will go deeper, and the experience will be more
present in your daily activity. That is the purification and opening
of your nervous system to divine experience. Preservation and
cultivation of sexual energy is an important part of that.

Is tantric sex a replacement for sitting practices such as
meditation, spinal breathing, mudras, etc? No, it is not, for a
couple of reasons.

First, tantric sex is in a similar category with mulabandha/asvini
and siddhasana, and success with these sexual energy-stimulating
practices is dependent on continuing global purification through
spinal breathing and deep meditation. You can go only so far with
tantric sex without the prerequisite practices. Then progress slows
down because you are using sexual energy alone for purification that
requires broader and deeper measures in the nervous system. The same
is true of the sitting practices that stimulate sexual/kundalini
energy alone. Without spinal breathing and meditation, things will
bog down. There can also be imbalances, kundalini symptoms, etc. So,
sitting practices are very important, spinal breathing and meditation
in particular, to complete the journey with a minimum of slowdowns
and detours.

Second, purifying and opening the nervous system to divine experience
is very dependent on daily practice – stimulating the nervous system
to open like clockwork twice a day, every day. This is not very
practical with sexual relations, though many would love to try for
it. It is better to enjoy sex when it comes to us naturally, using
the tantric sex methods to preserve and cultivate for higher
experiences. Tantric sex will be enjoyable whenever we happen to do
it, and a big help to our yoga. Then, the rest of the time, we will
be doing our regular daily sitting practices, which assure us that we
will be moving right along with our spiritual progress.

So, whether we are having sexual relations or not, advanced yoga
practices will be there every day at the same times, morning and
evening. If tantric sex is there too, then our yoga will be even
better, and all of life will be beautifully illuminated.

The guru is in you.

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