Lesson 12 - Q&A – Wet dreams and premature ejaculation

From: Yogani
Date: Mon Feb 23, 2004 1:47pm

New Members: It is recommended you read from the beginning of the
AdvancedYogaPractices main group web archive, as previous lessons are
prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "Why This Discussion?"
It is also recommended you read from the beginning of this tantra
yoga archive. The first lesson is, "What is tantra yoga?"

Q: I was reading through the messages and I've a question. This is
regarding how one can control the sub-conscious mind into not
having 'wet-dreams'. Most of my friends agree experiencing such
incidents. But some of my friends - whom I consider to be spiritually
more 'pure' - seem to never have experienced this. I personally see
this as a lack of control of emotions and thoughts. Can you comment
on this please?

A: Wet dreams are usually the product of immature erotic
sensitivities, and are a cousin of premature ejaculation. These
tendencies are both mental and physical, with mind and body being
closely connected.

On the mental side, if we meditate daily we will find inner silence
coming up and we will find gradually more awareness in waking,
dreaming and deep sleep states. We will "witness" them more from deep
within our silent Self. In time, we will know we are dreaming and be
less inclined to occurrences like wet dreams. Perhaps this is what
you notice in your more spiritually attuned friends. They are more
aware and not so prone to the flights of their dreams.

Developing inner silence is the key from the mental point of view,
and this comes from more purification deep in the nervous system,
primarily through meditation. Some people are born with more inner
purification than others, having done spiritual practices in previous
lives. We can all become more pure and aware by doing them in this
life.

On the physical side, we can develop more staying power in front of
orgasm using the tools in these lessons. This can be done either
alone or with a partner. As we develop more control of our sexual
functioning this will improve the situation of both wet dreams and
premature ejaculation. Of course, accomplishing this will give us
rising confidence and benefit us mentally and emotionally as well.

It is just a matter of conscious development, moving beyond natural
immaturity in our nervous system to natural maturity. A combination
of advanced yoga practices and tantric sexual methods can bring many
benefits along these lines.

The guru is in you.

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