Lesson 97 - Q&A – Tantra: Help for sex maniacs and ordinary lovers

From: Yogani
Date: Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:57pm

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archive, as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first
lesson is, "Why This Discussion?"

Q: I am sort of a sex maniac. I can't seem to get enough of it. My
wife takes every opportunity to encourage me, so she must be one too.
Needless to say, we have a very active sex life. In the past year we
have gotten interested in Tantra and Yoga, but we have not been able
to get our sex under control. We don't even know if we are supposed
to get it under control. It is beginning to concern me that I am
draining myself of vitality every day. I know it can't go on like
that forever if I hope to achieve anything spiritually. You have
given many practical methods for Yoga and we are very grateful, but
we are still hooked on sex. What do you suggest?

A: If your desire is strong to bring your active sex life into the
realm of yoga, much can be done using the methods of tantra. It will
not necessarily mean curtailing your sex life. That can go on
naturally as before. It will mean developing some discipline in the
form of specific techniques you can use during sex, and these you can
practice together. There are other techniques you can practice alone.
Then you will find sex gradually becoming part of the larger picture
of your overall yoga practices.

In most situations, it is the man who holds the keys to tantra in
sexual relations, because it is he who experiences the greatest loss
of prana, and it is he who usually determines the duration of the sex
act. No matter how much a woman may long for tantric unions, it is
the man who must first facilitate them. Then it can become heaven for
both the man and woman.

Once a man becomes committed to manage the loss of prana, and thereby
lengthening the duration of sexual union, a new mode of lovemaking
will evolve that is in the direction of yoga. Then sex can become a
strong facilitator of the union of the masculine and feminine
energies within us, along the same lines as mulabandha and siddhasana.

Tantric sex, while not at the heart of advanced yoga practices, is an
important skill to develop, especially if we are inclined to have sex
often. It is an extension of the principles of siddhasana, really,
where we are cultivating sexual energy upward into our nervous system
as it is being gradually being purified using the full range of
advanced yoga practices.

The sexual methods of tantra we will discuss are to support the
overall goals of the advanced yoga practices we have been discussing
in these lessons, without putting any sort of draconian limits on our
freedom to make love whenever we like. Applying and gradually
mastering the sexual methods of tantra frees us from the negative
stigmas that sometimes get attached to sex. Sex becomes another
aspect of our spiritual anatomy that we have the means to nudge
toward the higher purpose of our enlightenment. Sexual relations
become an aid to our spiritual evolution rather than remaining an
obstacle. At the same time, we gradually come to enjoy sex in ways we
may have never imagined. Good tantra is very liberating all the way
around.

To honor Yahoo's requirements regarding the posting of sexual
content, we will continue the tantra discussion in a separate
adults-only group that has been created for this purpose. It is the
same format as this group, except it is for adults only.

You can join the AdvancedYogaPractices_Tantra group in about a minute
and have immediate access to the lessons there by going to this link:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AdvancedYogaPractices_Tantra

If you are reading this in email form, it may be necessary for you to
sign in to Yahoo on the web with your ID and password when you select
the above link. After that, if necessary, copy paste the link into your
open browser, and you will be in.

So, for those of you who are interested, the rest of the tantra
discussion will be posted over there, including any questions and
answers that come up pertaining to tantric sexual methods and
experiences. A couple of lessons have been posted already, with more
to come. Because the tantra group will be of limited scope, it is not
expected to have a large number of lessons. It will cover only those
matters relating to tantra that are best discussed in an adults-only
environment. It is the "tantra group," while this discussion here is
the "main group."

The lessons here in the main group will continue along the lines that
have been indicated. As you know, there is much more to cover on
advanced yoga practices, and we will carry on here. It is expected
that the main body of these lessons will be completed by mid year.

The guru is in you.

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